We all know the holidays are supposed to be a time of warmth and laughter … of joyful gatherings with family and friends …
And I hope that’s true for you, my dear.
But what if the holidays are not joyful for you?
What if your past experiences of the holidays make you feel anxious about seeing your family this time of year?
Like any sane person, you dread the prospect of spending time with dreadful people who happen to be related to you.
Look, it would be kind of weird if you enjoyed being tortured in the name of holiday cheer.
Here’s the thing
You can’t do anything about the way your family members behave, short of calling the cops and having them hauled off to jail.
What you can do is change the way you think about your family members, so you can enjoy the enjoyable folks without letting the others spoil your fun.
Changing your mind about your family can be hard to do on your own …
So here are some tips to help you get started.
Do You Expect Your Loved Ones to be Different This Time?
Do This Instead
- Stop judging folks who behave the way they want – instead of the way you want. Respect the right of others to be exactly as they are, even if you think they could stand some improvement.
- Ask yourself, “What would happen if, just for today, I accept everyone for who they are?”
- Approach each person with an open mind and an open heart. You will feel better, and so will they
Do You Allow Bullies to Back You into a Corner?
Do This Instead
- Prepare to flee as soon as you feel attacked, verbally or physically. Forget hoping the bully will back off. Bullies don’t work that way.
- Excuse yourself, saying, “Got to go. I need to make a phone call.” Or whatever. Just get out of there. You do not have to put up with this behavior.
- Stay under the radar of the bully. Leave if you must. A party is not the time or place for a showdown. Save it for another time.
Do You Make Being Right Your Top Priority?
Do This Instead
- Respect the opinions of others, however misguided they seem to you.
- Ask yourself, “Would I rather fight, or enjoy this time with my loved ones?”
- Say, “Let’s agree to disagree. Truce? Can I get you a drink, or something to eat?” Bring them what they want. Enjoy your time together.
I hope you found these tips useful, my friend.
Please know: If you feel like you would be happier, or safer, by staying away from your family, it’s okay to make other plans.
You have the right to protect yourself, whatever your relatives may have told you.
You are officially authorized now to enjoy your holidays any way you wish.
Wishing you a season of light, laughter and love.
I am thankful for YOU!
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