How to Believe in Yourself – Tip 2

To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. – Alan Cohen

It’s hard to feel confident if painful thoughts chip away at your spirit day after day.

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It’s important to realize that you are not your thoughts. You are far greater than that.

You not responsible for your thoughts, either. Many of them pop up all by themselves, without any help from you.

So, please, stop blaming yourself for having negative thoughts. Your thoughts are not your fault.

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Your brain expresses thoughts surfacing from:

  • Your unconscious mind
  • The collective consciousness
  • A video you watched three days ago
  • A comment your grandmother made when you were 6 months old 
  • Something a surgeon said while you were under anesthesia that had nothing to do with you, but your brain stored it away as a free-floating idea


If you’re not responsible for your thoughts, what are you responsible for?

You’re responsible for the way you respond to your thoughts. 

Do you take negative thoughts and run with them, blowing up small incidents into full-scale disasters?

If so, you’re not alone. There’s a lot of that going around. Have you noticed?

Many people assume that if they think a thought, it must be true.

Not so. Not even close.

Your brain has a mind of its own, so to speak.


Your consciousness – the part of you that is greater than your thoughts – is the part of you that observes your thoughts, your feelings, your stories …

As you cultivate higher consciousness, you develop discernment about which thoughts can be safely disregarded, and which thoughts should be acted upon.

Let’s develop your discernment now

When you notice a hurtful thought, like:

  • “I’m a loser”
  • “I don’t deserve to have what I want”
  • “I’ll never find the right person for me”
  • “Making money doing what I love is just a dream – it will never happen”

Instead of letting the thought freak you out, you can do this:

Dissect It

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Call to mind a hurtful thought that’s been nagging at you.

Examine it under the spotlight of your awareness.

Ask yourself, “Is this thought true? How do I know it’s true?”

If you don’t know how you know the painful thought is true, it’s probably a belief you inherited from your family or picked up from the collective consciousness.

It has nothing to do with you. It means nothing about you. It’s just brain babble. Which means it’s safe for you to imagine it dissolving now in the light of your awareness.

See it replaced by a new thought that gives you confidence and peace.

Picture the colors of confidence and peace (whatever you imagine those colors to be) filling you up from the soles of your feet to the top of your head.

Enjoy the feeling!

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If you think the thought is true, ask the Higher Power of your understanding to give you the highest perspective on this idea so you can see it in a new light.

Imagine the highest truth beaming down through the top of your head and radiating throughout your body. Picture every cell within you lighting up with this new awareness.

Notice how you feel. Whatever you feel, it’s normal. It’s okay. Enjoy.

You have every reason for confidence, my friend. You are greater than you know. Your presence on Earth graces all of us.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

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Until we meet again, take care, my friend.

Remember, you never walk alone.


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